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Kelley DeLuca reviewed Prestige Martial Arts
5
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My son has been attending Shihan's classes for nearly 2 years now. Within this time, he has quickly matured and his behavior has improved so much (I almost cant believe it!)! Not only does he learn Martial Arts, he also learns how to be a great person and good friend, discipline, manners, strength, confidence, and so much more from this program. I really enjoy watching him grow in every aspect of life! Ive also attended parent workshops that Shihan provides, which have helped me tremendously! I highly recommend Skillz Dynamic Martial Arts, you WONT be disappointed!

Brittany Onstead reviewed Prestige Martial Arts
5
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Love skillz dynamic martial arts! My son has been here over a year. Shihan is amazing and this program has helped so much with my sons confidence, leadership skills and key assets like goal setting. It’s more than just martial arts it teaches them life skills that are essential to success even into adulthood that are not being taught anywhere else in their daily schedules. Highly recommend!

Dennys Pimenta reviewed Prestige Martial Arts
5
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There are several reasons why parents should look for this program, the discipline, respect, the mental or body development but the one I like the most is the confidence Denny develop on his students/ninjas due to his disciplined fun way to teach them. My daughter who used to have confidence issues at school is developing in several different aspects of her life

Heidi Marini reviewed Prestige Martial Arts
5
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Skillz Dynamic Martial Arts is a positive atmosphere where your child learns skills that will help them through and into their adult life. My Son is learning how to be a leader, have confidence, work with others, and many more! I love watching him grow and learn every week!

Jeff Lido

My Daughter has been attending class with Shihan for four years. She has transformed from a shy, quiet, unsure of herself girl to a strong, confident, expressive ninja who stands up in class to profess her skills and is always the first to raise her hand with the loudest voice. The skills and lessons have been invaluable. This isn't your run of the mill karate class. Not everyone gets a trophy, they have to earn their awards through hard work and effort. Shihan has their best interest at heart and makes them improve with proper discipline.

Tiffany Dempsey

I highly recommend skillz dynamic martial arts. As a mom of a 6 year old boy struggling in many areas from self respect, confidence, communication to handeling his emotions it was very hard to find a program that worked on all these areas of life in one setting. I was introduced to skillz dynamic videos over a year ago!!! we are just now just finishing a two week trial. I regret not going a year ago. The facility is clean, welcoming, and you feel like a family from day one. The instructure is amazing with the kids and very experienced as well. My absolute favorite part of this program is the parent involvement. Many programs we have found focused more on one or the other, parent or child not both!!! The instructor not only supports your child but you as a parent as well!

Kristy Cox

My 7 year old has been attending classes at Skillz Dynamic Martial Arts for about a year and a half. In that time, I have seen such an improvement in him. He loves Shihan and doesn’t even realize the important life skills he is learning. I love the classes so much that I recently enrolled my 3 year old as well. How many 3 year olds listen, say yes ma’am, and do things because they have a “Yes I Can” attitude? Mine does and it’s because of these classes. Shihan is wonderful with all ages and abilities of the kids and teaches valuable lessons to the parents as well. I honestly cannot say enough about this program!!!

Michael Dyja

We love this program! Our son Logan is an only child, so we wanted an after school activity that he can interact with kids his age ( age 6 at the time). SDMA turned out to be the perfect choice. Shihan not only teaches karate, but has developed a program that teaches the kids what it means and takes to be an outstanding person. Logan is now 10 and is such a considerate young man. His teachers and principal at school always comment what a great kid he is, and what a leader he is also. I owe all that to SDMA. Shihan is constantly improving the program. If something works good, he'll work hard to make great. THANKS SHIHAN FOR ALL YOU DO!!!

Ken Arnott

LOVE LOVE LOVE this studio the instructor is not only helpful with my child he also is chalk full of knowledge that helps me out in tough times when im at my witts end and don't know what to do about my childs behavior. I recommend this place to everyone i am so pleased to see how far my Gavin has came since starting here. THANK YOU Shihan

Stephanie Wright

Love this program! This is NOT your typical karate program, but so much more! The kids learn life skills such as self esteem, respect, and discipline (for example, a challenge this month is for ninjas to make their bed every day). My daughter started this program shortly after turning three years old, and I have seen tremendous increases in her self-confidence, attention span, respect for teachers at school, manners, and overall behavior (in addition to physical development). Not a day goes by that her teachers don’t compliment her on her behavior, and I believe a large part of that is owed to this program. The instructor is incredibly enthusiastic and dedicated to student success. It’s not very often that you get to see someone who has truly found his “calling” in life, but I believe Shihan is one of those people.

Grant Faulkner

Absolutely the best thing we've ever done for our son and for our family. In only a couple months we saw huge positive changes in our son's self-esteem, his confidence, his fitness, and his overall attitude. He’s always excited to come to class, and his growing pride and sense of accomplishment is a joy to see. More than just a karate school, through SDMA our son (and our family) is learning valuable life skills. Thanks Shihan Strecker!

Nicole West reviewed Prestige Martial Arts
5
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My son Joseph loves Karate with Shihan! We tried another karate schools that was closer in location, but he kept asking for Shihan. In comparison, I was most impressed with the curriculum and organization at Skillz Dynamic Martial Arts, and I'm so glad we made the decision to return. The kids are all known by name and addressed individually throughout each class. Joseph loves it, and I have seen growth in him both as a karate student and as a young boy who displays confidence and shows courtesy and respect!

Amanda Russell reviewed Prestige Martial Arts
5
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My son has been going here since September and he absolutely LOVES IT!! I enjoy watching him learn new things and cant wait to see him advance in his belt colors!! I am so glad i choose to go here for him rather than another place!

Annamarie Macandog reviewed Prestige Martial Arts
5
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One of the most rewarding decisions we've made in our daughter's development has been her enrollment at Denny Strecker's Karate. She has developed so many skills in just one year. The instructors are wonderful and the skills they teach reach well beyond martial arts, including reinforcing skills to be a good student, good friend, and good person.

Donald Kolosick reviewed Prestige Martial Arts
5
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Nearly five years at the dojo now. My son, 12 year old who is autistic has really progressed under Shihan Strecker. He is doing things I would not have thought he could do. He's still very shy but his confidence has grown so much. I highly recommend this kid friendly, family oriented dojo.

Christopher Biddle reviewed Prestige Martial Arts
5
via Facebook

Absolutely love what I'm seeing both our daughters achieve in such a short time, and really like how the courses focus on life skills as well as physical skills

Scott Reno reviewed Prestige Martial Arts
5
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We're only 6 weeks in and we could not be happier w/ the progress. Our near 4 year old is not the best listener, but we are already seeing changes. Still a work in progress to be sure, but we're on our way!

Lisa Sandor reviewed Prestige Martial Arts
5
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Great place for karate and kickboxing. Instructor is awesome and looks forward to seeing you succeed

Denise DeGolyer reviewed Prestige Martial Arts
5
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Denny Strecker's teaches kids not only karate, but how to become leaders. My son has been going there for over a year and the change in his self confidence and attitude has been life changing!

David Kaye reviewed Prestige Martial Arts
5
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Caring, detailed, and family oriented are 3 terms that come to mind when thinking about this facility. You definitely don't want to pass up this school if you want to learn self defense, confidence, respect, or just get a great workout.

Sk Heinzman reviewed Prestige Martial Arts
5
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We signed up my son last year when he was 5 to help him build confidence. Since then his more confident in everything and made improvements in all areas. Now, his twin sister has joined along with him after seeing how fun the class were. I love the fact that the classes focus on life skills but making it a blast for the kids!

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Are You Keeping Score?

Are you keeping score? I have had several conversations with parents over the phone this week, talking about their child, and looking to get started in the kid’s karate program. It was interesting to find that none of the parents that I spoke with were keeping score.

Every parent is worried about their child’s future, but they aren’t keeping score as to what is happening in their child’s life to make sure that they are designing the future that is going to be best for their child. Every time your child quits an activity, that would be a point towards negative fear or using that quit muscle every time your child experiences failure, that’s going to be negative and or count as a point.

Every time they experience these types of negative things, they start to stack one on top of the other, and if you don’t have any positive points, that’s when you start to really get concerned about your child. What we are looking for is to be able to create situations in which your child develops positive points in order to balance out those negative points. Nobody’s life is going to be all positive and nobody’s life should be all negative, but we are noticing that parents aren’t keeping an active watch on that process. And that just time goes by.  Suddenly it’s been a couple of years and your child’s experienced negative, negative, negative, and they have now developed some fear and anxiety. A parent was just talking about how worried she was that her child is just so anxious and just cries all the time for just about any reason at all, and she doesn’t know why or how to help her.

We started talking about, what’s been going on and what’s happening and negative, negative. She didn’t do this. She didn’t like this. She’s afraid to try it. I think she’s afraid to fail at anything. She is just living in fear and we don’t want kids to live in fear. We want them to be creative and be successful. So being nervous is one thing. But being fearful to the point where you’re not taking action is not healthy.

You want to make sure that you start keeping score for your child. What is your child’s score today? You can set up the system, however you want. It doesn’t matter how you do it. You just want to make sure that you are doing it. Your child experienced a success today, give them a point.

You can do one point for positive and then another point for negative and then add them up. Or you could do a plus one minus one, whatever works for you. The system itself doesn’t matter. Doing it is what matters because I almost guarantee you will see you are not creating enough positive experiences. I hear about this all the time. My child quit soccer and then they quit the chess club and then they quit and then they quit, and then they quit – so many negative points being earned.

Parents with the best of intentions, keep saying,

“Well, I want my child to experience everything so they can find out what they like.”

I get what you’re trying to do, but you’re also allowing them to quit and quit and quit. and just like our muscles, the quit muscle gets stronger.

A scientific study showed that once you quit an activity, you’re 88% more likely to quit the next activity, 88%. So if your child constantly quits and keeps moving from one thing to another, they are going to miss out on a lot of good, healthy skills, like commitment, dedication, focus, and concentration. whatever the thing is, they’re going to miss out on those skills.

Unfortunately, they are going to learn,

“I don’t have to stick with it if I don’t like it. If I don’t love it, then I don’t have to do it.”

Here is where the problem comes in. What about a job? What about the relationships as they get older? Well, I don’t like this relationship now, it’s not perfect, so I’m out.

They’re never going to be able to have a healthy relationship if they keep quitting when things get bad.

This one thing is going to serve them a whole lot better, but nobody is looking that far forwards. That is something that I do on a regular basis. I picture a child’s future and make sure that we’re looking for those positive points and make sure that you’re looking for the best thing for your child and not just making sure they’re happy today. Being happy is important. Being happy today in the short term is not the ultimate goal.

So find those wins, create those situations in which they are going to have positive results, You want to make sure that you are keeping score for your child to make sure that they are developing in a positive way.

Otherwise, they are going to be in for a lifetime of regret, remorse, disappointment, and sadness. And I absolutely hate to think about any child growing up that way. It is my job and my mission to help make kids successful and as happy as possible with the best skills.