Self Esteem vs Confidence
Hi Skillz families, self esteem is the joy of being myself. It’s the confidence in one’s own worth and abilities. However, many people confuse confidence and self esteem.
When asked to explain how one develops confidence or self esteem, most parents struggle to explain the steps in which development occurs. So let’s break it down.
Confidence is the feeling or belief in something, this comes from experience or through social proof. Self esteem is the confidence in our own abilities, not in something else. Self esteem is only developed truly when we do things all by ourselves and we know that no one helped us do it.
One of the biggest mistakes parents make is to help their kids too much. I believe we’ve all been guilty of that at some point. A major misconception is that when we help our child and they accomplish a goal, we think that they’re building self esteem and they’re not. But why? It’s because they know they didn’t do it all by themselves.
How do we know this? Have you ever helped your child with something and said at the end, “See? You did it,” and they have very little confidence and they say things like, “No I didn’t, you did.” Or they say, “Yeah, but you helped me.”
When you know you did something all by yourself it’s a totally different scenario. Kids get so excited, they go crazy, they yell, they coming running in the room, “Mom, dad, I did it! Look! Come look at what I did. I want to show you this.”
Why all the enthusiasm? Because they know they truly did it all by themselves without any help. This is how self esteem is developed, through this type of accomplishment.
At Skillz Dynamic Martial Arts we use martial arts as a tool to develop the life skills parents want. We accomplish self esteem development in our students through consistent training using a simple step by step method that allows students to train at their own pace, reach their goal markers with reward incentives to maintain excitement and to make training, discipline, and life skills fun.
If you have further questions just let us know. We’re always here to help.