Teaching Your Child Problem Solving
Hey, parents Shihan here and today, I want to help work on your child’s tenacity and specifically their mental toughness.
So all too often you’ve heard your child say the words I can’t and in some cases you’ve heard it a lot more than you care to.
Unfortunately, the words I can’t start to become a habit and if the kids continue down that path, by the time they’re a teenager, that habit is going to be ingrained and it’s going to become a part of who they are.
There’s going to naturally run into an obstacle or challenge.
Well, I can’t do it and give up on it.
See the words, I can’t close the mind.
So that way they don’t have to worry about facing that challenge or obstacle.
Well, since I can’t do it, I can just push it off to the side and move on to something else problem as you know, that’s not going to serve them very well because there’s gonna be a lot of obstacles and challenges in life that they’re going to have to overcome.
So what I want to work on is teaching you how to change your child’s brain into a problem solving machine.
And this is how we’re going to do it the next time that you catch your child saying the words I can’t, or for that matter, if you happen to catch yourself saying it, use the words, how can I or how can you, if you’re speaking to your child?
So your child says, well I can’t do this.
Well, how can you do it now?
What happens is the brain has to answer that question.
So it’s going to go into problem-solving mode.
It’s going to look at past experiences and say, have we done something that’s similar to this, that we can apply?
It’s going to engage the imagination and saying, well, I wonder if this would work and it’s going to start to create multiple solutions Until it finds the right one.
So you now instantly taken the brain from closed and don’t worry about it too.
How can I do this?
So by simply engaging that process over and over again, you’re going to notice that your child stop saying I can’t and their creativity is going to increase, or the problem solving is going to increase, which is going to help them everywhere in life.
So that’s my tip for this week.
No more. I can’t.
But again, a knee-jerk reaction or problem that parents have is to say, well, yes, you can.
And right, that’s part of the natural conversation.
The problem with that is you’re not changing your child’s brain, you’re just addressing the situation.
So think about that for a second.
Whenever your child says, I can’t do it and you say yes I can and you might poke and prod and guide them and it finally gets done naturally.
The next words out of your mouth, “See. Told you.”
So that’s not going to change their mindset.
They’re just going to look at it as well.
That was just that special instance or circumstance by using the how can I method you’re now moving them away from I can’t so that that way it just gets completely eliminated and you never hear it again.
There you go.
That’s my tip for the week.
Let me know how it works for you and I’ll talk to you soon.